Emotional Control

Hypnosis is a very powerful tool to help you exercise a sense of emotional control that you probably thought you never even had.  This page explains how.

• Are angry outbursts straining your work or family relationships?
• Do you suffer from an energy draining feeling of sadness?
• Are you struggling to hide a deep sense of inadequacy or incompetence?
• Does a sense of guilt pervade your life?
• Are you feeling bored to death?

If you are feeling that your life is being hampered by a feeling that's holding you back - by a feeling that you just can't seem to lose, then it is time to;

1. listen to what your feelings are trying to tell you, and
2. do something about what you hear.

The something that can provide deep relief from feelings that you have been carrying for too long and provide you with a firm sense of emotional control is Hypnotherapy.

Secret Language

The first step in discovering how to gain a sense of emotional control is to learn what it is your emotions are trying to tell you.  Once you understand that your feelings are there to make you aware of your needs, wants and desires, then you will not consider any feeling as "bad."  Rather, you can come to appreciate the guidance that they offer you. You are on the way to gaining emotional control

Even those emotions that are labelled negative by many people have a purpose.  The problem is that most of us have not learned to speak the language of our emotions.  We remain deaf to their messages and end up suffering instead of learning and growing from our life experiences.

Cal Banyan (with whom I did my advanced hypnosis training) explains this very well in his book, The Secret Language of Feelings.  I can recommend this book as a starting point for anyone who is struggling to cope with the emotions they are feeling.

Anger Example

Take for example the emotion of anger.  When we experience and recognize anger in ourselves, it can serve the important use of pointing out to us that we, or someone we know of, has suffered something unfairly.  Knowing this, and reflecting on the situation, can provide us with the motivation and energy we need to right the injustice. 

However, many of us may push our anger, or any other emotional reaction, back down inside of ourselves. Others may have found a way of distracting themselves from even thinking or becoming consciously aware of the feeling they are experiencing.

Some of you can relate to lessons drummed into you by parents or teachers for purposes of emotional control that emphasized holding your emotions in.  Think how commonly strong messages are given to children, perhaps they were given to yourself, such as, "nice girls don't get mad," or "boys don't cry," etc.

Think also of the "stoic" images often portrayed in movies of heroes, battling their way through life. Often, not giving voice to their emotions is shown as sign of strength.  Many N. American cultural myths of the wagon train, cowboy pioneers and war heroes are built on this image.

I am not suggesting that by recognizing and understanding our emotions we become ruled by our emotions. Quite the reverse.

By understanding what our emotions are trying to tell us and acting appropriately on that information, we discover the inner reserves of strength we need to move ourselves through difficult situations.  Reserves of strength in fact that we may have had no idea we possessed or had access to before.

The Result

Several important things can result when we continually repress expression of our emotions.

1. We leave unresolved the need or issue that the emotion is trying to point out to us.  The internal guidance our emotions are trying to offer is wasted on us.

2. Ignoring the message that our emotions are trying to tell us can lead to a state of chronic internal stress.

A chronic level of high internal stress can have very bad, even fatal, consequences for the state of our immune system.  That is the system that provides our internal defence against any disease.  It may well also cause physical symptoms in other organs of our body, including our digestive system and heart.

That's right, chronic internal stress caused by suppression of our emotions can make us downright sick.  Dr. Gabor Mate, M.D. explains this very clearly in his book, When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress.

3. Continually ignoring our emotions will lead us to overreact whenever we meet up with a situation that triggers the same emotion that we have repressed.  We can literally be walking around at boiling point; not needing much to have our emotions boil over, whether it be in fit of rage or experiencing a sense of overwhelming sadness, etc. for seemingly trivial reasons.

A Full Cup

In these cases, our "emotional cup" of anger/sadness/guilt etc. that we are carrying within ourselves is full.  It does not take much of a situation to cause that cup to spill over completely.

We need a way to empty our emotional cup if we are to gain emotional control and wellbeing.  When we do that we find that we are nowhere nearly as bothered by situations that previously caused us (and often those around us) an immense amount of grief and stress.

Going to the Root

Our emotions, and memories of the issues to which they are attached, are stored in our Subconscious Mind.  This is what makes Hypnosis the ideal tool with which to release the unexpressed emotions that we have stored in our mind and body.  In Hypnosis we are communicating directly with our inner mind. We are able to go straight to where the problem lies.

It is not a case of just providing positive suggestions to our Subconscious Mind that we will not feel angry, sad, or whatever.  These suggestions are a very beneficial but only part of the process.  To gain emotional control we need to go to the root of the unresolved issue.  If not, the positive suggestions stand to be ultimately rejected by the Subconscious Mind.

Imagine that the unexpressed emotion that is causing you pain is like a dandelion growing in a lawn.  Just providing suggestions for it to subside is like cutting the head off with a lawn mower.  The flower will grow back. To experience a permanent relief the whole root has to be taken out.

That is what can be achieved by a well trained Hypnotherapist, typically in a few short sessions.  Your newfound sense of relief, revitalization and wellbeing as a result of this can be profound.

Hypnosis Working for You

You can find out here. how you can use Hypnosis now to gain emotional control and benefit from a new and deep sense of well being.