Hypnosis and Love

Famed psychologist, Sigmund Freud, compared being in love to a state of hypnosis. Being in hypnosis allows us to focus on something to the exclusion of others.

When we are "in love" we tend to focus very narrowly on what is wonderful, or what we enjoy, about the person we are in love with. We then let those perceptions strongly influence our feelings about that person.

When a relationship is ended we may feel the pain of a broken heart because we continue to think of our ex with our "in love" perceptions of them continuing in full force. We need to change those perceptions which are no longer helpful to us.

We have become conditioned to seeing that person through the filter of those perceptions. To free ourselves from them releases the pain, heals us, and allows us to go forward to a positive future.

Have you noticed that no amount of anyone telling you to "just get over it" helps? May be you even try telling yourself that over and over again to no avail. It doesn't help because it is not rational problem that you are facing. It is a "feeling" problem.

That is why Hypnotherapy can be so very powerful in helping someone heal from a broken heart. In hypnosis we work directly at the level at which are our feelings are created and played out over and over again. It is hypnotherapy that can help us eliminate the no longer helpful mental programming that we installed in our mind when we "fell in love."


In saying this I do not want to give the impression that we can, will or necessarily should, go through life without ever experiencing emotions such as sadness or anger. Sadness or grief for example is very much a naturally occuring emotional response when we lose something of value to ourselves.

We often hear these days of the harm of "negative" emotions as if some how we are hurting ourselves by having experienced them. I would suggest that there is no such thing as a "negative" emotion.

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