Most people will fail to keep their New Year's resolution. You may be depressed by this news but of course you are not surprised if you are one of the many who have tried before to turn over a new leaf on January 1 and failed.
Does it have to be like this? Not at all. You need to learn a little more about how to make personal changes stick that's all. Here are the top 4 mistakes I see people make all the time in my profession as a Consulting Hypnotist at the Queen Elizabeth Health Complex in Montreal, and how to avoid them.
I 'll take the classic resolution of losing weight but it could be anything else from becoming a non-smoker to doubling your income next year.
Mistake #1: Making a resolution to change because you feel you “should” or some one else wants you to.
Solution: Only make a resolution to change if you really want to make that change yourself. Be clear on why you want the change. It won't work if you are making the attempt just because someone else wants you to or you feel it is just something you “should” do.
Mistake # 2: Choosing only a vague goal such as “I will lose weight?”
Solution:Get specific: Specify how much weight you want to lose, by when etc.?
Mistake #3: Not really believing your goal is possible, e.g. You want to but can you really believe that you will lose those 50 lbs?
Solution: Can you imagine losing 2 lbs a week or 4.5 ounces a day? Break your goal down to smaller steps that you can imagine achieving.
Mistake #4: Here's the big one, thinking that you will make a lasting change of a deep seated habit by sheer willpower.
Solution: You overeat, smoke or don't exercise due to the irrational reasoning of your subconscious mind, not the logical thinking of your conscious mind. Willpower, a function of your conscious mind, will not overcome the irrational programming of your subconscious mind in the long run.
For example, if you have a strongly held subconscious belief that “It is wrong to waste food,” you will soon be back at your overeating habit however hard you try to resist.
Rationally (the logic that drives your conscious mind) you know that you will not lose weight while continuing to be a member of the clean plate brigade but you keep on cleaning that plate and having second helpings too if there is any food left. Now that's irrational behavior if you want to lose weight.
You need to work at the level of your subconscious mind because that's where the problem really exists. When you practice hypnosis, (whether self hypnosis or with a professional Hypnotist) that is what you are doing; Communicating directly with your subconscious mind to change the dysfunctional programming there.
Give yourself a real chance at change this year. I will help you – go download the free self hypnosis Mp3 here on my site NOW. There are no catches; I want you to succeed.
Happy and Successful New Year, you can make it happen if you take action now!
Stephen Gruber MA
If not now -when?
If not here - where?